Life Skills

Snippets : -At its core, a negative thought is not inherently negative. It’s simply a thought.  - Negative thoughts have no inherent power over you. They come and they go. - If you want to learn how to stop negative thoughts, realize that it’s not about stopping thoughts, but about changing how you relate to those initial thoughts. - You can see your thought patterns as programs running inside you, like a software app on a computer, phone, or tablet. Your software can be changed, molded, and redirected. Find the full article from below link. Click to read from source :

A lovely little girl was holding two apples with both hands. Her mum came in and softly asked her little daughter with a smile; my sweetie, could you give your mum one of your two apples? The girl looked up at her mum for some seconds, then she suddenly took a quick bite on one apple, and then quickly on the other. The mum felt the smile on her face freeze. She tried hard not to reveal her disappointment. Then the little girl handed one of her bitten apples to her mum,and said: mummy, here you are. This is the sweeter one. No matter who you are, how experienced you are, and how knowledgeable you think you are, always delay judgement.  Give others the privilege to explain themselves.                                What you see may not be the reality. Never conclude for others. Which is why we should never only focus on the surface and judge others without understanding them first. Those who like to pay the bill, do so not because they are loaded but because they value friendsh

By, Ray Mathis It’s the 90% of an iceberg that’s below the surface that you need to be concerned about.  Behavior is just the tip of the iceberg. Too often, teachers and schools ignore what’s below the surface. It’s why attempts at behavior modification often don’t work, and things often just get worse. Here’s how life unfolds: EVENT + THOUGHTS = FEELING > BEHAVIOR Anything that happens is just an EVENT in our lives. Our brains are always generating THOUGHTS, trying to make sense of what happens, and watch for potential threats. It’s what we choose to think about EVENTS that really causes how we FEEL, and attitude is always the father of behavior. THOUGHTS simultaneously can give rise to emotion like anger, and MISTAKEN goals. Two common mistaken goals when angry are POWER and CONTROL, and REVENGE. Many kids come to us with a history of troubling life EVENTS with adults in their lives. These EVENTS were quite threatening to them. The thoughts they generated in response were qu

Snippets : - Workplaces that promote mental health and support people with mental disorders are more likely to reduce absenteeism, increase productivity and benefit from associated economic gains. - A healthy workplace can be described as one where workers and managers actively contribute to the working environment by promoting and protecting the health, safety and well-being of all employees. - Some examples of risks to mental health include- low levels of support for employees, unclear tasks or organizational objectives. - A recent WHO-led study estimated that for every USD $1 put into scaled up treatment for common mental disorders, there is a return of USD $4 in improved health and productivity. Click to read full article from source :

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Snippets : - Fear  is a vital response to physical and emotional danger—if we didn't feel it, we couldn't protect ourselves from legitimate threats. - Sometimes one or two scary experiences can cause us to fear things that we don’t rationally need to fear; some fears aren’t based on first-hand experience at all.  - Fear may be natural, but it’s not always helpful. Sometimes our brains mistakenly learn to send fear signals even when there is no real danger, perhaps based on one or two bad experiences. - Your fear may never be fully extinguished, but hopefully it will hold less power over you and not prevent you from achieving important goals and enjoying your life.  - Research suggests that a more effective way to combat fear is to do the thing you least want to do—face your fear head on—but do it one step at a time, in a healthy and safe way.  Click to read full from source :

     T oday the ‘Life Skills’ blog is celebrating 100 th  article of its blog. The Life Skills (LS) blog started in the year 2013 to educate people about life skills and its importance. This blog contains articles on various topics touching upon Life skills. Some articles have snippets (Headlines), which gives you hint about entire article, and then you can decide to read the entire article. Life skills are a set of human skills acquired via direct experience, (and also through training) that are used to handle problems and questions commonly encountered in daily human life. When we were in primary school we dealt with numeracy skills (numerals, ratios, formulas), literary skills (Reading, writing, and comprehension). When we went on to our higher classes most of us started memorizing the concepts and then writing back the same in the exams and securing good marks. Paulo Freire referred to this kind of education system as ‘Banking model of education’. The name refers to th

Snippets: - Life coaches push you to find success and satisfaction from your job or lifestyle. - Life coaches help you move past challenges that stand in the way of your goals. - The sessions will range from 15 minutes to an hour. During that time you'll talk about what you want to accomplish. - Before you sign on for any coaching sessions, interview a few potential life or wellness coaches. Ask how they usually work with clients. Click to read from source :

Story Title :  Dog mind, lion mind This is a very beautiful analogy in Zen. Picture there is a dog in front of you. And you are throwing bones for it to catch. For every bone you throw, the dog jumps with over-the-top enthusiasm and runs to catch it and get it back to you. Do this 1 time or a 100 times. The dog will treat every bone you throw with the same excitement level. Now, (for some strange reason), picture a lion sitting in front of you. Throw a bone for the lion to catch. It will look completely disinterested in running behind the bone you throw. Why? Because forget the one or two bones you throw, the lion can see an entire bag of bones in front of it. That is  YOU . It does not follow the bones you throw, because it can see the bigger picture in front of it. Its focus is to eat the entire you, not the tiny bones that you throw . If something, (say, Donald Trump’s weird hairstyle or your friend’s WhatsApp status) catches your attention and distracts you, fair and good. It o

“We all need people who will give us feedback. That’s how we improve.” – Bill Gates We most often hear phrases our friends and contacts tell us. a. ‘Because of you, we are always late to the sports complex’. b. ‘You always miss the deadline to submit the assignment’. c. ‘I do not like the colour combination of your dresses’. When they say you are late for the sports complex, then it means you lack self/time management. When they say you miss the deadline, then you need to improve your organisational skills and working style. And when they say they don’t like your colour combination of dresses, probably you might have to look at your dressing sense. There is a proverb which says, the enemy is always sweeter and the friend is bitter. A friend always judges our action and immediately gives feedback to it, both consciously and subconsciously. When I mean friend, it could be any person close to us, a father, a brother, an uncle, or a classmate. It takes loads of cour

Snippets : - It is better to make a small success over an ambitious failure any day. Small successes show us that we really can change our behavior in a lasting way. - Once a behavior is on autopilot, everything is easier—we don’t need much willpower to enact our habitual behaviors. - Think less about what you want to  achieve  and focus in on how you want to  feel (Know the logic of this in full article). - Create  structural solutions . This usually means removing temptations—if your goal is to stop checking your phone while you drive, keep the phone in the trunk. The enriching original article is in the below link. The article with 10 tips is backed by scientific analysis. What are you waiting for: Read now or Add an event in your calendar to read this later. Click to read from source :

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Here are some of the examples of positive psychology: When you fall down the stairs and think, “wow I fell down very fast. Maybe that's a record!”. When you hit rock bottom in your life and think “ wait! I can't fall anymore. The only way from here is upwards. Come on!! Let's do this!!” When somebody asks you “are you suffering from mental illness?” And you reply “no. I enjoy it.” When you buy a second hand car and your friends ask you “why have you bought such an old, rusty vehicle??” And you reply “ I just got myself a very well experienced car at a very cheap price.” When you fail an exam and you are like “ I get one more year dude. That's a lot of time to master the subject and maybe I can be better than the guys who passed in just one year.”When you are fired from a job and you think “ Yeah!! I am on fire! Bring it on!” Source: Quora

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Four simple steps: 1. Acknowledge the offense. 2. Provide an explanation.  3. Express remorse.  4. Make amends.  Click to read from source :

1. Focus on one task at a time. And learn new things one step at a time. Example: Focusing on this article. 2. Exercise/Physical activity might increase the blood supply to the brain and improve links between brain cells.  3. Choose good food and be healthy. 4. Social activities improve your mind. Try to make friends, volunteer and interact with people. 5. Stay calm take deep breath. Live at present. 6. Have enough sleep. Adults need 7-8 hours of sleep every night. 7. People who are more active in mentally challenging activities are more likely to stay sharp. Try to read books, play a game, learn a second language. 8. "Neurobics," challenge your brain to think in new ways. Since your five senses are key to learning, use them to exercise your mind. If you're right-handed, try using your left hand. Drive to work by another route. Close your eyes and see if you can recognize food by taste. Source: Click to see the source :

👉1. Don't educate your children to be rich. Educate them to be Happy. So when they grow up they will know the value of things not the price. 👉2. "Eat your food as your medicines. Otherwise you have to eat medicines as your food." 👉3. The One who loves you will never leave you because even if there are 100 reasons to give up he/she will find one reason to hold on. 👉4. There is a lot of difference between _human being_ and _being human._ A Few understand it. 👉5. You are loved when you are born. You will be loved when you die. In between You have to manage...! 👉6. If u want to Walk Fast,  Walk Alone..! But  if u want to Walk Far, Walk Together..!! 👉7. Six Best Doctors in the World- 1.Sunlight 2.Rest 3.Exercise 4.Diet 5.Self Confidence & 6.Friends Maintain them in all stages of Life and enjoy healthy life 👉8. If you see the moon ..... You see the beauty of God ..... If you see the Sun .....

The food we eat, has to be digested and then thrown out of body in 24 hours, else we will fall ill. .... The water we drink, gets in our body and is thrown out in 4 hours, else we might fall ill. .... The air we breathe, has to be thrown out in 1 minute, else we will die. What about negative emotions like hatred, anger, jealousy, insecurity ... we hold in our body for days, months and years. If these negative emotions are not thrown out regularly it props up into psycho-somatic diseases. Flexibility attitude, positive thinking, care for others,meditation and prayers are safest way to dissolve these emotions. Source: Whatsaap message

A young lady sat in a bus. At the next stop a loud and grumpy old lady came and sat by her. She squeezed into the seat and bumped her with her numerous bags. The person sitting on the other side of the young lady got upset, asked her why she did not speak up and say something. The young lady responded with a smile: "It is not necessary to be rude or argue over something so insignificant, the journey together is so short. I get off at the next stop." This response deserves to be written in golden letters: *"It is not necessary to argue over something so insignificant, our journey together is so short"* If each one of us realized that our time here is so short; that to darken it with quarrels, futile arguments, not forgiving others, discontentment and a fault finding attitude would be a waste of time and energy. Did someone break your heart? *Be calm, the journey is so short.* Did someone betray, bully, cheat or humiliate you? *Be calm, forgive, the journey is

Snippets : - Compassion is, the deep awareness of the suffering of another, coupled with the wish to relieve it. - By some measures, up to 70 percent of people don’t feel like anyone cares about them when they go to work every day. That leaves them emotionally out in the cold. They may physically show up, but psychologically they’re checked out. - Compassion fuels the capability for high-quality service delivery, better innovation, collaboration, and adaptation to change. - Compassion is actually a 4-part human experience. Compassion always begins with noticing suffering—an attentional component— and then interpreting that suffering as relevant to work and worthwhile for us to respond. Then comes empathy—a form of concern for the other person’s well-being, which motivates action to alleviate suffering, which is the fourth part of compassion at work. Click to read from source :

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 Radical leader, can: Prepare oneself Exemplify Moral Integrity Go Beyond Self-Interest Establish Clear Goals Respect Your People Convey an Inspiring Vision Be A Mentor... and in doing so inspire revolutionary teamwork.

1. An 18-year-old must be able to talk to strangers Faculty, deans, advisers, landlords, store clerks, human resource managers, coworkers, bank tellers, health care providers, bus drivers, mechanics—in the real world. The crutch: We teach kids not to talk to strangers instead of teaching the more nuanced skill of how to discern the few bad strangers from the mostly good ones. Thus, kids end up not knowing how to approach strangers—respectfully and with eye contact—for the help, guidance, and direction they will need out in the world. 2. An 18-year-old must be able to find his or her way around A campus, the town in which her summer internship is located, or the city where he is working or studying abroad. The crutch: We drive or accompany our children everywhere, even when a bus, their bicycle, or their own feet could get them there; thus, kids don’t know the route for getting from here to there, how to cope with transportation options and snafus, when and how to fill the car wit

Everyone has had a pebble in his or her shoe. You may have one or two now. It's the small, nagging thoughts that eventually weigh you down. Some pebbles have been hidden, undetected for years. Others push, prod, and make their presence felt every day. Each pebble intrudes into the lives of the unsuspecting. At different times in life the pebbles arrive. Although they are small and mostly undetected, they represent many unresolved thoughts, images and experiences. Some are pebbles of doubt. They form from a single thought that occurred years, months or weeks before. Some pebbles are lodged only in your business shoes. Some reside in your house slippers that you tuck under your bed. Some pebbles find their way into your golf shoes while others form in the shoes worn while you parent.  Unfortunately, some pebbles travel in all your shoes regardless of where you walk or run. Some pebbles are of fear. Others are created from guilt, rejection or shame. Maybe not today, but they eventu

Snippets : - We often use the words “I’m stressed” casually in our everyday conversations, with little acknowledgment of the adverse effects of stress in our lives. - Not all stress is bad, of course. Stress can also be invigorating or  lead us to care  about the welfare of others, if channeled in the right way. - To some extent, we can reduce stress by simply taking good care of ourselves through getting proper sleep, exercise, and nutrition. - If we all focused more on listening and understanding each other, the world would be a lot less stressful—and a lot happier—place to live. Click to read from source : If unable to open, paste the below link to browser: http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_fight_stress_with_empathy/success

There was a farmer who had a horse and a goat….. One day, the horse became very ill and he called the veterinarian, who said: "Well, your horse has a virus. He must take this medicine for three days. I'll come back on the 3rd day and if he's not better, we're going to have to put him to sleep." Nearby, the goat listened closely to their conversation. The next day, the Vet gave him the medicine and left. The goat approached the horse and said: "Be strong, friend. Get up or else they're going to put you to sleep!" On the second day, the doc again gave him the medicine and left. The goat came back and said: - "Come on buddy, get up or else you're going to die! Come on, I'll help you get up". Let's go! One, two, three... but the poor horse wouldn't get up! On the third day, the Vet gave one look at the horse and said: "Unfortunately, we're going to have to put him down tomorrow. Otherwise, the virus might spre

I still remember the day I was preparing fresh lime water for the first time...I ended up adding almost five times the amount of lemon than needed. It was a disaster.I had to correct it anyhow. How I wish I could remove some lemon juice from water to make it taste perfect again! But alas! Some things can never be undone. Some things can never be changed. There was no way that I know of, to remove the extra lime. So what was the solution then? The only way to correct this was to add four more glasses of water and dilute the lemon juice to make five glasses of fresh lime water. This made me think.. Sometimes we cannot undo some things that have gone wrong in life. Some wrong decisions, wrong choices, wrong investments, wrong actions, wrong associations, wrong words or wrong doings can never be undone. So what is the solution then? When you cannot correct what is wrong, do not waste more time over it. It is like attempting to remove lemon from water. Instead, get busy in adding so

1.  I learnt to operate 3 critical machines *         Scanner *         Printer *         Xerox Machine 2.  I learnt to use 3 High End Software: *         Microsoft Word *         Microsoft Excel *         Microsoft PowerPoint 3.  I learnt to use 3 great short cuts:- *         Ctrl+C *         Ctrl+V *         Ctrl+S 4. I learnt to say three very important words for professional life:- *         Yes sir *         Ok sir. *         I'll Just Do That sir 5.  When I really wanted to quit, I learnt to: - *         Wake Up early *         Sleep late *         Continue to Work 6.  I learnt to: - *         Face Monday *         Fight For next 5 Days *         Wait For Sunday 7.  I learnt to give reasons to family, friends and relatives for not making *         Phone Calls *         Messages *         Mails 8.  I learnt to celebrate these things far away from loved ones:- *         Birthday *         New Year *         Festivals 9.  At the end, People say:-

I was brought up to believe that how I saw myself was more important than how others saw me.     - Anwar el-Sadat The lifestyle and expectations have seen a tremendous change. We have become self-centered, but even in that self-centeredness, we are not perfect. We do not know where we are heading to. In order to keep our day good going, it is important to reflect and recharge ourselves. And add creativity and value, to the things we do in day to day life. Below are five easy ways to keep yourself in your control. The below will help you create greater success for your day: 1. Reflect  2. Gratitude   3. Loosen yourself 4. Train your brain to stay positive  5. Bring down your stress and boost creativity 1. Reflect:  We become so mechanistic in life that, we forget to fix our goals. We get going along with the flow.  We don't even see what kind of food we eat. What kind of words we use. Most of us go through the day singing run, run, run&qu