Life Skills

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Ex. President Of India Dr. Abdul Kalam Says: "When I was a kid, my Mom cooked food for us. One night she had made dinner after a long hard day's work, Mom placed a plate of 'subzi' and extremely burnt roti in front of my Dad. I was waiting to see if anyone noticed the burnt roti. But Dad just ate his roti and asked me how was my day at school. I don't remember what I told him that night, but I do remember I heard Mom apologizing to Dad for the burnt roti. And I'll never forget what he said: "Honey, I love burnt roti." Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy, good night & I asked him if he really liked his roti burnt. He wrapped me in his arms & said: "Your momma put in a long hard day at work today and she was really tired. And besides... A burnt roti never hurts anyone but HARSH WORDS DO!" "You know son - life is full of imperfect things... & imperfect people..." I'M NOT THE BEST & I HAVE LEARNT TO ACCEPT

A question was asked in seminar *Why employees don't discuss about their problems and frustrations to their management ?* The best answer came from a really frustrated employee, *"You cannot discuss your Malaria problems with the Mosquito!"* 🤣🤣 Keep Smiling😊😊😊😊 Source: whatsaap message

It’s important to remember to let go of our stresses and worries. No matter what happens during the day, as early in the evening as you can , put all your burdens down. Don’t carry them through the night and into the next day with you. An interesting short story worth reading. Click to read story from source:

I woke up today , having dream at 4 AM . I was in the biggest Mall looking to buy a pair of socks and a neck tie . As I walked in, I noticed a sweater with a price tag of RS 9000 .Next to the sweater, a pair of Jeans for Rs.10000 .The socks were Rs.8000 ! And Tie for estonishing 16,000 /- I went for a salesperson and found one in the watch Dept He was showing a man a Rs. 225/- Rolex watch . I looked in the glass case and there was a 4 carat diamond ring also on sales for Rs.95/- Shocked I asked the salesperson "How could a Rolex watch sell for Rs.225/- ? ,and a cheap pair of socks sell for Rs. 8000/-"? He said "Someone slid into the store last night and changed the price tag on everything ". I woke up startled & confused and thinking since then ... Maybe our life is like this dream. Maybe someone slid into our lives and the changed the price on everything Maybe  they marked up the value of  competition, position, titles,  fame , promotion,  show-off , m

- Difficult conversations, if respectful and honest, help us create much deeper relationships than if we tiptoe around each other. - A difficult conversation is not a contest with a winner and a loser. Even if you think you’ve won, your relationship with the “loser” will forever be mistrustful and unpleasant. - To have a productive conversation, especially when it is about a past issue, you must be able to let go of judgments. - When we stop communicating, we fill that gap with our own interpretations, insecurities and fear. Click to read an interesting full article from Fish philosophy blog:

Snippets: - Worldwide, it is estimated that 10 – 20% of adolescents experience mental health conditions. - Globally, depression is the ninth leading cause of illness and disability among all adolescents. - Childhood behavioural disorders can also affect adolescents’ education. - Promoting psychological well-being and protecting adolescents from adverse experiences and risk factors which may impact their potential to thrive are not only critical for their well-being during adolescence, but also for their physical and mental health in adulthood. - Adolescence should adopt healthy sleep patterns; taking regular exercise; developing coping, problem-solving, and interpersonal skills; and learning to manage emotions.  - Adults should create a supportive environments in the family, school, and in the wider community. Click to read detailed article from WHO Site:

Snippets: - Do you know what 'Sleep hygiene’  is? It is the term used to describe the environmental and behavioural factors that may affect our ability to fall asleep and gain a good quality of sleep.  - We should know about the effects of not sleeping, too little sleep and/or low quality sleep. - Our quality of sleep can heavily influence how we behave and perform, how we feel and even how we look. - Tiredness and lack of sleep can be dangerous for lots of other reasons. Like it can effect your driving, office work and personal life too. - The referenced article discusses about what it all takes for a good sleep. It discusses stuff like maintaining a healthy sleep environment, meal time, routine and so on. Click the below link to read full article from source: https://www.skillsyouneed.com/ps/importance-of-sleep.html

-  Lindred Greer , an associate professor of organizational behavior at Stanford Graduate School of Business says, a creative and successful team should have members that have different ways of thinking, different backgrounds and styles of work, and different expertise,". Further she comments, "Bring optimists and pessimists together; pair risk-takers with risk-avoiders. In other words, design a team around complementary but distinct attitudes and strengths." - The leader's and followers' vision and mission should be aligned. For this, every team should take part in an orientation in which goals are stated explicitly, benchmarks are established, and responsibilities of each team member are made clear. - For smooth functioning of the team, it's important for a leader to be well informed about happenings in the team. Left alone, small issues become bigger ones, and can disrupt team dynamics.  Click to read full article from source: 'Life skills' b

- An innovation is a new thing or a new method of doing something. Innovation is the introduction of new ideas, methods, or things. - Innovation is not just the generation of new ideas but being able to put them into useful practice on a daily basis. - The skills and techniques of innovative thinking are not just vital in work, but useful in everyday life as well, helping us to grow and develop. For successfully working on an innovative idea you need to have knowledge of 3 supportive areas, in addition to why-what-how of your field. a. Power (Authority) Management. b. People Management. c. Change management. The article in the below link gives a very crisp and well explained picture of innovation. Click to read detailed study from the source: 'Life Skills' blog is an initiative of CLF to spread the knowledge of daily life skills.

- Self-awareness is understanding your personality, feelings, strengths, weaknesses and behaviors. - Research shows only 10-15 percent of us are really self-aware. - Studies show coworkers are much better than you at recognizing how your personality affects your performance. - Psychologists say self-awareness is a foundation to happiness and success.  - Self-awareness starts with reflection but doesn’t end there.  - Self-awareness is easier for some than others. But we can all improve.  - Highly aware people also ask “what” they can learn from the situation and “how” they can improve it. - It is also important to consider how the third person’s experiences shape the opinions of your family members or colleagues. - When you are in a 'Make Their Day' mindset, you see opportunities to lift people’s spirits you never saw before. Click to read from source of this snippets : This is an initiative of credence Learning Foundation to spread the awareness of importance of lif

A father left 17 Camels as an Asset for his Three Sons. When the Father passed away, his sons opened up the will. The Will of the Father stated that the Eldest son should get Half of 17 Camels, The Middle Son should be given 1/3rd of 17 Camels, Youngest Son should be given 1/9th of the 17 Camels, As it is not possible to divide 17 into half or 17 by 3 or 17 by 9, the sons started to fight with each other. So, they decided to go to a wise man. The wise man listened patiently about the Will. The wise man, after giving this thought, brought one camel of his own & added the same to 17. That increased the total to 18 camels. Now, he started reading the deceased father’s will. Half of 18 = 9. So he gave 9 camels to the eldest son. 1/3rd of 18 = 6. So he gave 6 camels to the middle son. 1/9th of 18 = 2. So he gave 2 camels to the youngest son. Now add this up: 9 + 6 + 2 = 17 & This leaves 1 camel, which the wise man took back. MORAL: The attitude of negotiation &

Snippets: - Depression is not a sign of personal failure or something to be ashamed of. It does not mean that a person is "crazy." Depression is simply an illness that needs to be treated so that life will once more be enjoyable, purposeful, and worthwhile. - Depression affects a person's thoughts, but it also seems that a person's thoughts can affect depression.  - The best way to help someone with depression is to encourage that person to get professional help. If the depression is severe, encouragement may not be enough, however. It may be necessary to arrange a visit to a health care provider for them. - Treatment for depression depends on its type and severity. There are several approaches that can be used either alone or in combination. Current thinking suggests that medication combined with psychotherapy is the most effective treatment for moderate to severe depression. The medication helps relieve the symptoms of depression, while the psychotherapy helps

-   Once in a physics class, the teacher asked the students, *“Why do we have brakes in a car?”* Varied answers were received: “To stop” “To reduce speed” “To avoid collision” etc., But the best answer was, *“To enable you to drive faster”* Give it a thought. For a moment assume you have no brakes in your car then how fast will you drive your car? It’s because of brakes that we can dare to accelerate, dare to go fast and reach destinations we desire. _At various points in life, we find our parents, teachers, mentors & friends etc. questioning our progress, direction or decision. *We consider them as irritants or consider such inquiries as “brakes” to our ongoing work*._ But, remember, it’s because of such questions (periodical brakes) that you have managed to reach where you are today. Without brakes, you could have skid, lost direction or met with an unfortunate accident. *Appreciate the “brakes” in your life. Use them wisely!* Source: whatsaap message

It's very important to understand how people learn and think. It is also helpful in terms of maintaing good relationship with family, friends and peers. It is highly recommended for teachers, coaches, and trainers. To put in a line, it is required for folks who work more with people. It is helpful if we can understand various models of learning and thinking, such as (MBTI)  Myers-Briggs Type Indicators . What is MBTI ? The Myers–Briggs Type Indicator ( MBTI ) is an introspective self-report questionnaire with the purpose of indicating differing psychological preferences in how people perceive the world around them and make decisions. The  MBTI  was constructed by Katharine Cook Briggs and her daughter Isabel Briggs Myers. Click to find more from 'skills you need' website:

When we are late to the office we tend to blame traffic jam. This gives the satisfaction that we are not responsible for us being late. But when we look deeply into the matter, if the traffic jam has occurred unexpectedly only on a particular day then this can be a valid reason. And on the other hand, if we are late repetitively, then this has to do something with our planning and self-management In general, we try to safeguard ourselves by denying oneself responsible. In the case of city traffic, we put guilt on the city and its traffic and its bad planning. Once you put guilt on the other factors, you feel comfortable immediately. In a real sense, traffic is out of our control, which we cannot solve immediately or we cannot solve it at all. After knowing this, I should have been a more responsible planner. Instead of blaming traffic I should have worked on my planning and work organisation part. This was an example of how blame game happens in our daily life organisation. Imagine t

Most great organisations are pulling itself to greatness. And one thing we need to agree is they care for their people and also care for the culture in which their employees work in. On the list of organizational priorities, culture often comes last. But research shows if you want to improve results, start by defining, implementing and improving your culture. When people feel appreciated and trust is high, they are more engaged and work better as a team. In turn it improves productivity, service, retention and performance. What is culture? Culture refers to people's 'way of life', the way groups do things. We need to believe that different groups of people may have different cultures. As genetics are passed on by heridity, the culture is passed on to the next generation by learning. The learning which needs culture to be imbibed in to people does not come by formal teaching or training. Yes, the concept of culture could be taught, but actual culture gets on to people&

If I care for you I shall listen to you willingly; I shall listen not only with my ears But also with my heart. I shall listen not only to your words or your thoughts but also to your feelings and experiences; Our level of communication will be very deep. If I care for you, my conversation with you will no more be an exchange of words or dry formality or verbal ping-pong. It will be a deep sharing of ourselves. In this way you release my energies and I release yours; We touch and heal each other; we become more creative in our listening, enriching both the one who speaks and the one who listens. Source: Received in Alumni communication mail of Banjara academy.

Snippets: - In an average a person needs atleast 7-9 hours of good quality sleep. - Lack of sleep affects certain parts of the brain more than others. The emotional center of  your brain , the amygdala, becomes more sensitive to negative stimuli both internal and external. - Without enough rest, your immune system doesn’t have enough time to recharge itself or fight off infection.  - Try going to bed and waking up at the same time every day even on weekends. - Sleep deprivation can affect all aspects of your life.  Click to read the full article by sleep expert:

Snippets: - This article will really help you to understand the strategy of cooperation and humbleful coordination at organisation. - By focusing too much on control and end goals, and not enough on people, leaders are making it more difficult to achieve their own desired outcomes. - Rather than telling employees how to do their jobs better, start by asking them how you can help them do their jobs better. The effects of this approach can be powerful. - For this you need to be servant- leader. servant-leaders have the humility, courage, and insight to admit that they can benefit from the expertise of others who have less power than them.  - The original article in the link is by Dan Cable. He is professor of organizational behavior at London Business School. His new book is Alive at Work: The Neuroscience of Helping Your People Love What They Do. I encourage you to click below to read original article with few case studies. Click to read article from source:

Date: 02 - 07 - 1909 Divisional Railway Officer, Sahibgunj, *Respected Sirs, I am arrive by passenger train Ahmedpur station and my belly is too much swelling with jackfruit. I am therefore went to privy. Just I doing the nuisance that guard making whistle blow or train to go off and I am running with lotaah in one hand and dhoti in the next when I am fall over and expose all my shocking to man and female women on platform. I am got leaved at Ahmedpur station. This too much bad, if passenger go to make dung that dam guard not wait train five minutes for him. I am therefore pray your honour to make big fine on that guard for public sake. Otherwise I am making big report to papers* (ORIGINAL LETTER) Your faithful Servant, Okhil Chandra Sen Okhil Babu wrote this letter to the Sahibganj divisional railway officer in 1909. It is on display at the Railway Museum in New Delhi. It was also reproduced under the caption Travellers Tales in the Far Eastern Economic Review. Any guesses why

*How can I improve myself within a month?*  This is a plan for 30 days. You can start practicing it from tomorrow. Follow one life skill per day as per the numbering 1-30 below. So if you follow order without miss, you will be able to do this whole exercise in a month. Many times we want to bring many habitual changes in us, but we fail to do it because of lack of initiative and many more reasons. Let us take this opportunity to imbibe this 30 better life skills in us. For better planning and implementation of this 30 skills. You should plan for the day one day prior. So that you can start your day afresh with a skill. *30 simple tasks for 30 days -:*     *Day 1*. Greet people with smile. Life is short. Life is simple. Do not complicate it. Don’t forget to smile.. *Day 2*. 'Greet first'. Make an habit of, you greeting the person before he greets you 'Hi, Good morning'. *Day 3*. Start planning your day. It will take a few minutes but wil

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Snippets : - The richer our understanding of emotions—also called emotional intelligence—the more smoothly we navigate interactions at work and at home, and the happier and healthier we tend to be. - A lot of emotional experience is not pure, but involves complex mixtures of states. Click to read:

Snippets : - Its employees responsibility to understand/determine if the job fits. While employers often assess and measure for competency and strengths, they most likely don’t assess how energized you are by the job. Which actually is important. - Currently, the assumption is that if you took this job, it’s the right job for you. - Motives are much harder to identify because we’re often not conscious of them. They’re the river that flows under us. - Achievement is also one of the factors that could make people to stick to their jobs. It is the need to constantly improve your performance and accomplish goals that are meaningful to you. Are you in the right job. Read full article to see research based analysis. Click to read from source :

A car ahead was moving like a turtle and not giving me way inspite of my continuous honking! I was on brink of losing my cool when I noticed the small sticker on the car’s rear! “Physically challenged; Please be patient.” And that changed everything!! I immediately went calm & slowed down!! In fact I got a little protective of the car & the driver!!! I reached work a few minutes late, but it was ok! And then it struck me.  Would I have been patient if there was no sticker!???! Why do we need stickers to be patient with people!?? Will we be more patient & kind with others if people had labels pasted on their foreheads?? Labels like —— “ Lost my job” , “Fighting cancer”, “Going through a bad divorce” , “ Suffering Emotional abuse “ , "Lost a loved one”, “Feeling worthless” , “ Financially broken”..... and more like these!!!! Everyone is fighting a battle we know nothing about. The least we can do is be patient & kind!!! Let us respect the invisible labels!!!!

During a class at Fresno Pacific University, a speaker asked one of the spouses in the audience: "Does your husband make you happy?" At this moment, the husband stood up straighter, showing complete confidence. He knew his wife would say yes, because she had never complained about anything during their marriage. However, his wife answered the question with a resounding "No." "No, my husband does not make me happy." The husband was baffled, but his wife continued: "My husband never made me happy, and he does not make me happy. I am happy." "Whether I am happy or not is dependent not on him, but on me. I am the only person on whom my happiness depends. I choose to be happy in every situation and every moment of my life, for if my happiness depended on another person, thing or circumstance, I would be in serious trouble. Everything that exists in this life constantly changes: the human being, the riches, my body, the climate, my boss, t

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Look at these happy faces 😄😊☺😂😌😚😆😄☺😁 And look at these sad faces 😡😠😨😢😳😰😥😳😢😠😱😏😨 Did you notice that all happy faces have closed eyes ! And on the other hand, all sad or angry faces have open eyes ! This is life.. Close ur eyes & ignore all negative things to live happily 😄 Yuo konw waht is Rael Reltionship? I m gving yuo an exmpl : Jsut c tihs msg. Evrey splleing of tihs msg is wrnog. Bt sitll yuo can raed it wihtuot ayn mistake. if u wnat true Raleti0nship; jsut ignoer mistaeks of others.. and understand them...!!👍 😃😊Keep smiling😊😄 Source: Whatsapp message

An engineer in a car manufacturing company designs a world class car. The CEO is impressed with the outcome and praised him a lot. While trying to bring out the car from the manufacturing area to the showroom, they realised that the car is 2 inches taller than the entrance. The engineer felt bad that he didn't notice this one before creating the car. The CEO was confused on how to take it outside of the manufacturing area. The painter said that they can bring out the car and there will be a few scratches on top of the car which could be touched up later on. The engineer said that they can break the entrance, take the car out, and later re-do it. The CEO was not convinced with any ideas and felt like it is a bad sign to break or scratch. A Watchman was observing all the drama & slowly approached the CEO.  He wanted to give an idea if they had no problem. They wondered what this guy would tell them that the experts could not give. The watchman said "The car is only

Snippets : - While others stay in their comfort-zone prisons and invest all their energy in reinforcing their existing beliefs, successful people are out challenging the status quo and exposing themselves to new ideas. - The most successful and happy people bring their ideas to fruition, deriving just as much satisfaction from working through the complications and daily grind as they do from coming up with the initial idea. - Researchers from the Harvard Business School did study by interviewing and assessing professionals who had attained great success. - Successful, happy people don’t dwell on problems because they know that they’re most effective when they focus on solutions. - The researchers found that people who were both successful and happy over the long term intentionally structured their activities around four major needs: Happiness: Achievement: Significance: Legacy: Click to read full article :

Question posted in Quora by Anonymous: *Answer by Karim Elsheikh*: “Human happiness (as we know it) is caused by 4 basic chemicals: *Dopamine* *Endorphins* *Serotonin* *Oxytocin* # On your journey to become fit, your body released endorphins to cope with the pain of physical exercise. You probably began to enjoy exercise as you got into it, and the endorphins made you happy - *temporarily*. # On your journey to become rich, you probably completed many tasks and goals. You probably bought all the things you’ve ever wanted. Nice cars, beautiful clothes, and a perfect home. This released dopamine in your brain when you achieved your goals and bought these things, which once again contributed to your happiness - *temporarily*. *So what about the other two chemicals?* It turns out that human happiness is incomplete without all 4 chemicals constantly being released in the brain. So now you need to work on releasing serotonin and oxytocin. “How do I do that, Buddy?” # Serotonin i

Dedicated to Responsible Daughters. Very well put....!!!! “Journey of a daughter” =================== Earlier when she burns her finger Used to make lot of fuss at home Now, even if she burns her hands Quietly prepares the food For small reasons Used to cry a lot Today, handles complex problems Silently Those days, used to fight a lot with friends Today, longs to meet up with them Those days, used to roam around the home calling “amma” Today, smiles on hearing the word “amma” If she gets up at 8am on holidays, she used to say she is early Today, if she gets up at 5am also, she says she is late Used to spend the whole year to fulfill her ambitions Today, feels lethargic to even buy clothes for herself Those days, even after lazying around the whole day Used to say she doesn’t have time Today, works the whole day And says she is happy For the exam at the end of the year Used to prepare the whole year Today, every day, without any preparation Faces many tests F

Short Story with a Good Moral.! A farmer was taking three of his donkeys for sale to the market. On the way he saw a river and decided to have a dip. Since he had only two ropes to tie the donkeys to a tree, he looked around wondering how to tie the third one. He saw a sage and sought his help if he could give him a rope to tie the third donkey. The sage did not have a rope but had a suggestion. He told the farmer, “let the third donkey see you tying the other two donkeys to a tree. Then you pretend to tie this one also”. The farmer did as he was told and went for a dip in the river. Coming back, he thanked the sage and saw that the donkeys stood exactly at the same spot where he had left them. He untied the two donkeys and patted the third one to start moving. After going a little distance, imagine his surprise when the third donkey stood still at the same spot. Cajoling, kicking or talking did not help with the donkey, refusing to move from the spot. The farmer went back to sage, w

Snippets from source : - Being in a bad mood could impact our orientation toward another’s suffering and our desire to alleviate it. - Taking good care of our physical selves is key to experiencing  good   feelings . - Keeping  a gratitude journal  or writing  a gratitude letter  to someone who has helped you or made your life better in some way  can bring  a  big dose of happy feelings . - It never fails to amaze how much talking to a friend can really shift our mood positively. - Give--   research  shows that giving to others makes us happier than spending on ourselves. - If we keep in mind that we have the power to shift our moods and maintain some emotional balance, we may be doing ourselves—and those around us—a big favor. Click to read full article :

2 stories to begin with 1. Nokia refused Android 2. Yahoo refused Google Story Over Lessons Learnt 1. Take risks 2. Embrace changes 3. If you refuse to change with time, you might perish Ok 2 More stories 1. Facebook takes over whatsapp and instagram 2. Flipkart takes over Myntra and flipkart owned Myntra takes over jabong Story Over Lessons learnt 1. Become so powerful that your competitors become your allies 2. Reach the top position and then eliminate the competition 3. Keep innovating 2 More stories 1. Colonel sanders founded KFC at the age of 65 2. Jack Ma, who coudnt get job in KFC, founded Ali baba Story over Lessons learnt 1. Age is just a number 2. Only those who keep trying succeeds Last but not the least 1. Lamborghini was founded as result of revenge of a tractor owner who was insulted by Enzy Ferrari, the founder of ferrari Story Over Lessons learnt 1. Never underestimate anyone, ever !! 2. Success is the best revenge Just keep working hard !!