The cockroach theory for self development:

At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on a lady.

She started screaming out of fear.

With a panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach.

Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group also got panicky.

The lady finally managed to push the cockroach away but ...it landed on another lady in the group.

Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama.

The waiter rushed forward to their rescue.

In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter.

The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt.

When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant.

Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behavior?

If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed?

He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.

It is not the cockroach, but the inability of those people to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach, that disturbed the ladies.

I realized that, it is not the shouting of my father or my boss or my wife that disturbs me, but it's my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me.

It's not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.

More than the problem, it's my reaction to the problem that creates chaos in my life.

Lessons learnt from the story:

I understood, I should not react in life.
I should always respond.

The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.

Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always well thought of.

A beautiful way to understand............LIFE.

Person who is HAPPY is not because Everything is RIGHT in his Life..

He is HAPPY because his Attitude towards Everything in his Life is Right..!!,,,,

This speech (2015) is by Sundar Pichai - an IIT-MIT Alumnus
(Sundar Pichai Google CEO)

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The Kindness Trap: Why "Ruinous Empathy" Is Stalling Your Team’s Growth:

- We’ve all been there. A team member submits a report that misses the mark, or a colleague’s performance begins to slip. You want to speak up, but then that voice in your head starts whispering: “They’ve had a hard week,” or “I don’t want to hurt their feelings.” So, you stay silent. You sugar-coat. You say, "Don’t worry about it, you worked hard." It feels like kindness, but it’s actually a feedback failure known as Ruinous Empathy. While it feels "nice" in the short term, it is ultimately one of the most damaging behaviors a leader or peer can exhibit. What is Ruinous Empathy? Ruinous Empathy occurs when you prioritize someone’s immediate emotional comfort over their long-term professional growth. By avoiding necessary, constructive criticism, you aren't protecting the person—you’re actually preventing them from improving. The results are predictable: * Stunted Growth : Employees never learn where they are falling short. * Broken Trust : Eventually, when...

30 simple life skills for 30 days:

*How can I improve myself within a month?* This is a plan for 30 days. You can start practicing it from tomorrow. Follow one life skill per day as per the numbering 1-30 below. So if you follow order without miss, you will be able to do this whole exercise in a month. Many times we want to bring many habitual changes in us, but we fail to do it because of lack of initiative and many more reasons. Let us take this opportunity to imbibe this 30 better life skills in us. For better planning and implementation of this 30 skills. You should plan for the day one day prior. So that you can start your day afresh with a skill. *30 simple tasks for 30 days -:* *Day 1*. Greet people with smile. Life is short. Life is simple. Do not complicate it. Don’t forget to smile.. *Day 2*. 'Greet first'. Make an habit of, you greeting the person before he greets you 'Hi, Good morning'. *Day 3*. Start planning your day. It will take a few minutes but ...

Stay in touch with your friends, keep pulling their ears:

Once a monkey wished to die due to sadness, he pulled the ears of a sleeping lion.... The lion woke up and roared with anger: - Who did this ? Who has invited his death ? Monkey :- I did, Maharaj, I am very depressed due to lack of friends and I want to die, why don't you kill and eat me ?? The lion asked with a laugh :- Did anyone see you while pulling my ears ? Monkey :- No, Chief ! Lion :- Okay, pull one or two more times, it feels very good 😀 The essence of this story... By living alone, even the King of the forest gets bored…. So stay in touch with your friends, keep pulling their ears, dragging, blabbering... 😄 Don't be dull, keep on having fun.... Believe that your mind will always be cheerful and you will always be healthy…. 👍🏻😁👍🏻😀👍🏻 Let's live to live happily ❤️ Source: Received through whatsapp

Coping with Emotion.

Emotions: Have you ever observed some of the situations occur in our lives? Say, you are walking on a road; suddenly a biker comes and lightly hits you, so that your dress gets dusty. How do you react? Shout at him or physically hit him or you keep passive and just walk on the road. Suppose if you beat the biker, you did not have the intention or even think of beating the person, but why did you beat? It is all sudden, because there is always an internal action and reaction process which takes place between our hearts, mind and physical body, which we do not see. Thus in the same kind, emotions also do work within our body and mind. Emotions take many faces as per the situation like, Anger predisposes us to defense or fighting and Fear predisposes us to flight (run away) or fight. What is Emotion? Emotions are a complex state of feeling that results in physical and psyc...

Mr. Brain and Mr. Life

A beautiful presentation in slideshare, which has fantastically brought out the interplay between brain and our day to day life. Click to view. http://www.slideshare.net/SebastienJuras/i-believe-icanfly?from_m_app=android

From the Ground Up: Why Teams Drive Success and Leaders Pave the Way:

- In the vibrant and often demanding landscape of the workplace, success isn't a solitary achievement. It's a collective effort, a finely tuned craft where each instrument plays a crucial role. And at the heart of this craft lies a fundamental truth: the team actually does the job. They are the engine room, the innovators, the problem-solvers who operate at the ground level, translating strategies into tangible results. We've all seen it – the late nights spent brainstorming solutions, the collaborative efforts to meet tight deadlines, the sheer ingenuity displayed when faced with unexpected challenges. This is where the real magic happens. Teams, empowered and given the space to operate, bring a unique blend of skills, perspectives, and creativity that is essential for navigating the complexities of the work. They understand the nuances, the local context, and can often devise solutions that a top-down approach might miss entirely. But where does leadership fit into this ...

Beyond the Clock: Reclaiming Our Most Precious Hours for Family:

- The sun climbs, painting the morning sky with hues of promise. For many, that daily ascent marks not the beginning of personal pursuits, but the quiet march towards another workday. From **8 AM to 5 PM**, five days a week, the most vibrant, energetic hours of our lives are often exchanged for the steady hum of the office. This isn't just a block of time; it's the very core of our waking, productive selves, poured into tasks and targets that shape our careers, but often leave precious little for the dreams that stir outside the cubicle walls. Think of it. These are the hours when the mind is sharpest, the body most resilient, the spirit most eager. It's when children are at school, when the daylight holds the most potential for outdoor adventures, creative projects, or simply quiet reflection. Yet, for nearly a decade or two, sometimes even longer, this prime segment of our existence is dedicated to the demands of professional life. We arrive, often before the world fully...

Don’t wait for the parrot to die:

-------------------------------------- The story is told of a woman who bought a parrot to keep her company, but she returned it the next day. *“This bird doesn't talk,”* she told the owner. *”Does he have a mirror in his cage?”* he asked. *“Parrots love mirrors. They see their reflection and start a conversation.”* The woman bought a mirror and left. The next day she returned; the bird still wasn't talking. *"How about a ladder? Parrots love ladders.The happy parrot is a talkative parrot.”* The woman bought a ladder and left. But the next day, she was back. *“Does your parrot have a swing? No? Well, that’s the problem. Once he starts swinging, he’ll talk up a storm.”* The woman reluctantly bought a swing and left. When she walked into the store the next day, her countenance had changed. *“The parrot died,”* she said. The pet store owner was shocked. *“I’m so sorry. Tell me, did he ever...

Happiness, Peace, reputation and more:

You probably have more talent and ability than you could use in one hundred lifetimes. You have all the intelligence you need, right now, plus the ability to learn any subject you need to learn to achieve any goal you can set for yourself. There are no limits on what you can be, do, and have, except for the limits you place on your own mind. THE BIG QUESTION Many years ago I began asking the question, "Why is it that some people are more successful than others?" The most important answer surprised me, as it surprises most people. It is simple. Your success is based on what you do, the results you get, and how quickly and efficiently you achieve those results. It is not based on what you say, wish, hope, or intend to do at some time in the future. Success is only based on what you are doing right now in this moment. As Henry Ford said, "You can't build a reputation on what you're going to do." We are living in the fastest moving, most tur...

Emotions should be welcomed and understood:

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