Understanding inner-directed and other-directed focus:

Psychologists tell us that some people are inner-directed and some are other-directed.

Inner-directed:

That is, some people focus on their own internal guidance system for making choices about how to spend their time and energy. Their own self-interest ranks very high on their list of priorities. “What’s best for me?” is a key guiding principle in determining where they focus their attention and how they make day-to-day decisions.

Other-directed:

And some people are other-directed, which means that their primary focus is external, not internal. They are primarily concerned with relationships, especially people they care about. “How can I help others?” is a key question in how they spend their time and energy. Building and nurturing relationships with loved ones, family, friends, neighbors, and coworkers is the guiding principle in their lives.

Research indicates that, in general, men tend to be more inner-directed, while women tend to be more other-directed. There are exceptions, of course, but as a group, men are focused on themselves while women are focused on other people. Men like to build things while women like to build relationships.

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Beyond the Clock: Reclaiming Our Most Precious Hours for Family:

- The sun climbs, painting the morning sky with hues of promise. For many, that daily ascent marks not the beginning of personal pursuits, but the quiet march towards another workday. From **8 AM to 5 PM**, five days a week, the most vibrant, energetic hours of our lives are often exchanged for the steady hum of the office. This isn't just a block of time; it's the very core of our waking, productive selves, poured into tasks and targets that shape our careers, but often leave precious little for the dreams that stir outside the cubicle walls. Think of it. These are the hours when the mind is sharpest, the body most resilient, the spirit most eager. It's when children are at school, when the daylight holds the most potential for outdoor adventures, creative projects, or simply quiet reflection. Yet, for nearly a decade or two, sometimes even longer, this prime segment of our existence is dedicated to the demands of professional life. We arrive, often before the world fully...

30 simple life skills for 30 days:

*How can I improve myself within a month?* This is a plan for 30 days. You can start practicing it from tomorrow. Follow one life skill per day as per the numbering 1-30 below. So if you follow order without miss, you will be able to do this whole exercise in a month. Many times we want to bring many habitual changes in us, but we fail to do it because of lack of initiative and many more reasons. Let us take this opportunity to imbibe this 30 better life skills in us. For better planning and implementation of this 30 skills. You should plan for the day one day prior. So that you can start your day afresh with a skill. *30 simple tasks for 30 days -:* *Day 1*. Greet people with smile. Life is short. Life is simple. Do not complicate it. Don’t forget to smile.. *Day 2*. 'Greet first'. Make an habit of, you greeting the person before he greets you 'Hi, Good morning'. *Day 3*. Start planning your day. It will take a few minutes but ...

Coping with Emotion.

Emotions: Have you ever observed some of the situations occur in our lives? Say, you are walking on a road; suddenly a biker comes and lightly hits you, so that your dress gets dusty. How do you react? Shout at him or physically hit him or you keep passive and just walk on the road. Suppose if you beat the biker, you did not have the intention or even think of beating the person, but why did you beat? It is all sudden, because there is always an internal action and reaction process which takes place between our hearts, mind and physical body, which we do not see. Thus in the same kind, emotions also do work within our body and mind. Emotions take many faces as per the situation like, Anger predisposes us to defense or fighting and Fear predisposes us to flight (run away) or fight. What is Emotion? Emotions are a complex state of feeling that results in physical and psyc...

The Bridge of "Sorry":

- The Closed Door and a Quiet "Sorry" A story to remind us the power of sorry: Raj had left his charger bag in the training building earlier. Returning late, he found the main door locked. He knocked repeatedly. Finally, the caretaker, a stern Mr. Verma, opened it, his face tight with annoyance. "What's the commotion?" Mr. Verma grumbled, glancing past Raj at another resident, Ravi, who had been startled by the loud knocking. He'd assumed Raj was trying to barge in. " Mr. Verma, I'm so sorry, " Raj said quickly, his voice sincere. "I didn't mean to disturb anyone with the late knocking." Instantly, Mr. Verma's expression softened. The annoyance faded. "Ah, it's you, Raj. No worries, son. For a moment, I thought you were just being inconsiderate. But that 'sorry'… it makes all the difference, eh?" He offered a small smile, the tension gone. Ravi nodded in agreement. Raj retrieved his bag, the brief moment...

Improving your perspective-taking skills can help you build stronger relationships:

- Ever notice how sometimes it feels like other people just don't get you? Or maybe you've had that feeling about someone else? A lot of this comes down to something called "perspective-taking"—basically, the ability to see things from someone else's point of view. It's like trying to walk in their shoes for a bit. But it turns out, this isn't always easy, and many of us struggle with it. So, why is it so hard to see things from another person's perspective, and what can we do about it? What is Perspective-taking: Perspective-taking is the ability to understand another person's thoughts, feelings, and experiences. It is an essential skill for building empathy, compassion, and understanding in our relationships. However, many people struggle with perspective-taking. There are several reasons why this might be the case. Why some people lack it: One reason is that people may be too focused on their own thoughts and feelings. When we are constan...

Hitting Your Target

Introduction from Bull's-Eye by Brian Tracy We are living in the greatest time in all of human history. Despite short-term economic fluctuations, there have never been more opportunities for more people to achieve more of their goals than there are today. The fact is, you have more potential than you could use in a hundred lifetimes. And the more of your potential you use, the more potential becomes available to you. The more you learn, the more you can learn. There is no reason for you not to be earning twice as much as you are today, or even five or ten times as much. There are people all around you who are no more talented than you, and no better educated, who are already earning this much. And what others have done, you can do as well, if you just learn how. Clarity, Focus, and Concentration You have the ability right now to achieve more than you ever have before, as long as you incorporate three essential mental skills into your life: clarity, focus, and concentration....

Shortest Dos and Don't:

- *Shortest article ever:* We are discussing 5Cs, the 4Cs not to do, and 1C to do. 4C not to do *Don't* Criticize Cry Complain Compare 1C to do *Do* Compliment ---- At the end remember, Do not play victim card. Victim playing is the fabrication or exaggeration of victimhood for a variety of reasons such as to justify abuse of others, to manipulate others, a coping strategy, attention seeking or diffusion of responsibility.

We, the people who were born between 1940-1985 are the blessed ones. Our life is a living proof of simplicity and tranquillity:

- What a beautiful answer! Comparison between two "Generations" ....... Everyone must read 👌👌 A youngster asked his father: "How did you people live before with- No access to technology No aeroplanes No internet No computers No dramas No TVs No air cons No cars No mobile phones?" His Dad replied: "Just like how your generation lives today with - No prayers No compassion No honor No respect No character No shame No modesty No time planning No sports No reading" "We, the people that were born between 1940-1985 are the blessed ones. Our life is a living proof: 👉 While playing and riding bicycles, we never wore helmets. 👉 After school, we played until dusk. We never watched TV. 👉 We played with real friends, not internet friends. 👉 If we ever felt thirsty, we drank tap water not bottled water. 👉 We never got ill although we used to share the same glass of juice with four friends. 👉 We never gained weight although we used to eat a lot of rice ...

Do you delay and feel lazy to do given task and missout deadlines? Learn how to come out of this problem:

- Do you often miss out on your deadlines? Are you afraid of starting on an already planned task? Delayed action in completing the tasks has given you mental pressure and guilt? Because of which you consider yourself to be lazy and not fit for the task. Let's understand this. Delaying of tasks many times is famously known as procrastination. It is a loop in which many of us are continuously revolving, many times unconsciously too. And yes obviously we can put efforts to come out of this loop. Image Source: Paytm business website How can you come out of it? It's with continuous practice and effort you can break this loop and succeed and make life much better and liveable. You should also have the company of positive people, be with them to stay high on motivation. Research says that there are many types of procrastinators and many reasons for procrastination. It's not same with everyone. Thus this article is giving you external link article to understand your cha...

A Different Kind of Smart: Nokia's Wary Approach to the Android Ecosystem:

- Beyond the Simple Narrative: Why Nokia's Android Dilemma Was More Than Just Stubbornness For years, the narrative surrounding Nokia's dramatic fall from mobile phone titan has been simplified to a single, damning sentence: "They should have just switched to Android." While seemingly straightforward in hindsight, this perspective overlooks the complex strategic considerations and valid concerns that likely influenced Nokia's fateful decisions. Diving deeper reveals a story where data privacy and the perceived potential of their own ecosystem played significant roles in their hesitation. The mid-to-late 2000s witnessed a seismic shift in the mobile landscape with the arrival of the iPhone and the burgeoning Android platform. While Apple's sleek design and intuitive software captured consumer hearts, Android, with its open-source nature and Google's backing, quickly gained momentum. Nokia, the reigning champion of the feature phone era, found itself at a c...

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