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How to deal with criticism.?

Hearing criticism can be hard, especially in a professional capacity. But learning to deal with criticism is also a very useful life skill. 

In a broader sense criticism is the expression of disapproval of someone or something on the basis of perceived faults or mistakes.

Criticism can be either constructive or destructive. Constructive criticism is designed to show you where you went wrong, but also help you to improve. Destructive criticism is often malicious, although it can also be the result of thoughtlessness. 

Constructive criticism is the process of offering valid and well-reasoned opinions about the work of others, usually involving both positive and negative comments, in a friendly manner rather than an oppositional one. The purpose of constructive criticism is to improve the outcome.

You can use both constructive and destructive criticism in one of two ways: as a way to learn, or to reduce your self-esteem and effectiveness. The first is, fairly obviously, more positive and better for you. When you receive criticism, it is important to remember that you cannot control what anyone else says, but you can control how you react to them. 

Even if a particular piece of criticism makes you angry or upset, try to react calmly. Thank the other person politely for taking time to express their views, and say that you will consider their comments. Later on, do just that: consider what has been said, and decide whether you want to take it on board, and if so how. 

Constructive criticism, particularly in a workplace context, is best given and received when it isn't too direct or personal, according to Target Training. If the criticism comes across as blame, the person being criticized can get defensive, instead of growing from the advice.

Examples:

constructive criticism is:
"I noticed that we have had some trouble communicating lately. What can we do to improve this?" 

Destructive criticism is:
"You haven't been communicating with me lately. What's your problem?"

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