We should learn to care and share with others; and have faith and trust in them and we will find these assets for ourself:

*Corporate lesson*

Be cautious when you take a leave from your job - it should be short enough to let the team miss you and definitely not so long enough that your team realise that it can function without you...

The above message was received through whatsapp. This thought makes you believe that your team should be made to feel that the team is functioning because of you. Actually this thought comes out of job insecurity concern. We need to believe and remember that the job is not about job satisfaction and money. The job is about outcome, an impact and a true care for the people we care for.

What ideally should be the situation.

We should strengthen our team in such a way that the team should function without 'me'. The team should get the skills and attitudes from you which should develop expertise in your team. We should learn to care and share with team; and have faith and trust in them and we will find these assets for ourself. William A. Ward had said, three keys to more abundant living: caring about others, daring for others, sharing with others.

Sharing with others is caring for others in action. ~ Douglas M. Lawson

Once you do a real time guidance and capacity building in your team, your team will grow and support for further team development and success. And they in turn, will develop few more leaders in the further processes. And you can go ahead build, manage and empower many more projects further on. Dave Cullen said, 'What good were special talents when there was no one to share them with?'.

When you dream alone, its a fantasy. When you dream alone, with your eyes shut, asleep, that dream is an illusion. Then what is the real dream? When we dream together, sharing the same dream, awake and with our eyes wide open, then that dream becomes reality!

An unshared life is not living. He who shares does not lessen, but greatens, his life. ~ Stephen S. Wise

Many of us are afraid to share ideas, skills and few self tested shortcuts fearing that others can exceed us in growth.

Think in an another way, here the deal is not about you and the opposite person, or people who are around you, its about team, organization, nation and the global community around us, which can benefit from our efforts. Because every thought, intention and action counts.

Og Mandino quotes, 'Realize that true happiness lies within you. Waste no time and effort searching for peace and contentment and joy in the world outside. Remember that there is no happiness in having or in getting, but only in giving. Reach out. Share. Smile. Hug. Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself'.

Written by:

Maaz Mohammed A.Q

Learning strategist / Trainer / People change management / Early Childhood Education / Life skills.

email: reach.clf@gmail.com

http://www.maaz-mohammed-aq.com/

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